Virgos Males - Peter Pan Syndrome

Virgo men are some of the most unique and quirky men in the Zodiac. Famous Virgo men include such notables such as Pee Wee Herman, Michael Jackson and Bill Murray. Virgos in general are very detail oriented, smart, hard working, and sociable people. Although Virgos have many great qualities to them this post will explore the childish nature of the Virgo, sometimes known as the man-child of the Zodiac.

In this past year my romantic life has been very dull, I attribute this to one thing, which is that I have only dated Virgos this year. Sure there has been the occasional one date or two with a fellow Cancer (total failures) and with some air signs (total failure, no surprise there) but the majority of my dating life has been centered around Virgos.

Virgos are very sweet upon initial meeting. They can range in personalities from the fierce domineering type, to the dork, to the workaholic, to the hipster, and so on and so forth. However one thing all Virgo men share in common is their childish nature. Like Peter Pan, Virgos don't ever want to grow up. Now surely my readers must be shaking their heads at this point and thinking of Virgos they know who have careers and families. I am not suggesting that Virgo men are incapable of either, in fact Virgos are some of the hardest and most focused workers of the Zodiac. They are also able to commit themselves to both a lover and a family (more on this later).

What I am saying is that Virgo men, no matter how old, will always act more youthful then their peers and display a childish nature both in personality and in actions. The men of this sign cling to youth, and if they were deprived of a childhood while they were were young they will develop odd quirks and habits that reflect this deprivation.

For example Michael Jackson, a famous Virgo, was obsessed with his childhood. His home in California was made to resemble a theme park and he hosted (albeit unsuccessfully) many sleepovers and parties solely with children. This is not to say that Virgos are pedophiles or are only attracted to children. Quite the opposite, most Virgos have far too much control over their personalities and are too concerned with how the world views them to do something as strange as this. But like Michael Jackson, Virgo men do have a fascination with childish things. Whether that be a childish sense of humor, love of cartoons, comic books or toys, rest assured Virgo men will display some form of this childish nature in their personalities.

Virgo males are also obsessed with their toys. Don't be fooled all Virgo men have toys. Whether that toy be collectible action figures, coin/stamp collections, pocket watches or a Mercedes Benz, rest assured Virgos will always have something that they consider a "toy".The most extreme example of this I encountered was another Virgo male I dated this year. He was in his early thirties and yet lived like a college student. His apartment was filled with toys and other various collectibles. For someone who was at an age were he should have been married with kids he chose to instead live like someone in his early twenties or late teens.

Although Virgo men can be quite caring to those they love there is always a very selfish quality to them (both male and female Virgos  can exhibit this quality). Like children they don't always put other peoples needs and feelings besides their own first. This quality can be seen readily in how Virgo treats people, both strangers and those they love. Virgo males will often be critical of their partners, family and friends. Like a child, Virgo will speak their mind as to what they think your faults are and like children they are confused when we become angry at them for this. Virgos think we should appreciate their critiques of us. Afterall, if a Virgo male wasn't there to inform us about how much weight we have gained, how yellow really wasn't our color and how unsalted his dinner was that night, who would?

The selfishness, rudeness and being critical is very reminiscent of a Virgo's childish nature. Like children, Virgo males lack the empathy and social awareness not to make rude comments. Nor do they have the wisdom to realize that they can bring about change in people simply by using positive constructive criticism or sugar coating the truth. Often times with Virgos, you will receive an acid bath of criticism for something as simple as overcooking dinner or an untucked shirt.


This again hearkens back to Virgo's detail oriented nature. Virgos in general are very detail oriented and neat people. Nothing escapes their attention and being thick skinned they don't mind bringing it to peoples attention. This quality makes them excellent mathematicians, scientists, engineers, lawyers, etc. But it also makes them lousy at relationships, both  friendship and  love.

Which brings me to another interesting thing about Virgos, which is their shyness and timidity in sexual matters.  Not to say Virgos won't hook up or have random sex. Virgos don't really mind either although its not their preference. What they don't like is crude talk or anything out of the realm of the ordinary. They enjoy "clean" sex and prefer partners who are keep themselves up very well (completely waxed, beautiful lingerie, etc). Virgos rarely want to feel dirty during sex, so don't try to talk too "dirty" to your Virgo man. They like to think of their lovers as innocent and virginal. Although a Virgo man  loves to be on top and dominate during sex he is not always the most passionate nor experimental lover. Virgo men rarely experiment during sex and usually prefer sticking to tried and true positions.

And no sexy Brazilian
men playing
the guitar either

One of the Virgo men I dated this year was like this. When I attempted to get on top, he basically told me no, only he wanted to be on top. It sort of felt like that that movie with Penelope Cruz, "Woman on top" only  a lot less sensual and exciting, plus I didn't even get to smell spicy chili peppers ;-(. The only exception to this is the occasional Virgo with a strong Venus in something like Scorpio. Some Virgo men even develop strange kinks in regards to sex and enjoy weird sexual fantasies and play. Other blogs I have read have commented on some Virgo men being fascinated with fantasies such as scat or enema play. Of course this is a rarity for the most part, most Virgo men are quite timid and very traditional  in their sexual needs and desires.

A man I recently dated has a very strong Virgo personality. He is extremely detail oriented, neat and fastidious about his appearance. And yet despite his strong masculine personality and somewhat domineering nature when you get to know him the mask falls away and what was revealed was a somewhat shy and timid little boy. I remember one day talking dirty to him during foreplay and he actually blushed, repeatedly. This coming from a man who had been around the block more than a few times.

Needless to say this post doesn't encapsulate the better qualities of Virgos. Like many Earth signs Virgos are dependable, solid, down to earth and good people. However this sign does have its quirks and the myth of the Virgo man-child was one of the many interesting topics that I want to explore in this blog. Feel free to comment :-)