Virgos Males - Peter Pan Syndrome

Virgo men are some of the most unique and quirky men in the Zodiac. Famous Virgo men include such notables such as Pee Wee Herman, Michael Jackson and Bill Murray. Virgos in general are very detail oriented, smart, hard working, and sociable people. Although Virgos have many great qualities to them this post will explore the childish nature of the Virgo, sometimes known as the man-child of the Zodiac.

In this past year my romantic life has been very dull, I attribute this to one thing, which is that I have only dated Virgos this year. Sure there has been the occasional one date or two with a fellow Cancer (total failures) and with some air signs (total failure, no surprise there) but the majority of my dating life has been centered around Virgos.

Virgos are very sweet upon initial meeting. They can range in personalities from the fierce domineering type, to the dork, to the workaholic, to the hipster, and so on and so forth. However one thing all Virgo men share in common is their childish nature. Like Peter Pan, Virgos don't ever want to grow up. Now surely my readers must be shaking their heads at this point and thinking of Virgos they know who have careers and families. I am not suggesting that Virgo men are incapable of either, in fact Virgos are some of the hardest and most focused workers of the Zodiac. They are also able to commit themselves to both a lover and a family (more on this later).

What I am saying is that Virgo men, no matter how old, will always act more youthful then their peers and display a childish nature both in personality and in actions. The men of this sign cling to youth, and if they were deprived of a childhood while they were were young they will develop odd quirks and habits that reflect this deprivation.

For example Michael Jackson, a famous Virgo, was obsessed with his childhood. His home in California was made to resemble a theme park and he hosted (albeit unsuccessfully) many sleepovers and parties solely with children. This is not to say that Virgos are pedophiles or are only attracted to children. Quite the opposite, most Virgos have far too much control over their personalities and are too concerned with how the world views them to do something as strange as this. But like Michael Jackson, Virgo men do have a fascination with childish things. Whether that be a childish sense of humor, love of cartoons, comic books or toys, rest assured Virgo men will display some form of this childish nature in their personalities.

Virgo males are also obsessed with their toys. Don't be fooled all Virgo men have toys. Whether that toy be collectible action figures, coin/stamp collections, pocket watches or a Mercedes Benz, rest assured Virgos will always have something that they consider a "toy".The most extreme example of this I encountered was another Virgo male I dated this year. He was in his early thirties and yet lived like a college student. His apartment was filled with toys and other various collectibles. For someone who was at an age were he should have been married with kids he chose to instead live like someone in his early twenties or late teens.

Although Virgo men can be quite caring to those they love there is always a very selfish quality to them (both male and female Virgos  can exhibit this quality). Like children they don't always put other peoples needs and feelings besides their own first. This quality can be seen readily in how Virgo treats people, both strangers and those they love. Virgo males will often be critical of their partners, family and friends. Like a child, Virgo will speak their mind as to what they think your faults are and like children they are confused when we become angry at them for this. Virgos think we should appreciate their critiques of us. Afterall, if a Virgo male wasn't there to inform us about how much weight we have gained, how yellow really wasn't our color and how unsalted his dinner was that night, who would?

The selfishness, rudeness and being critical is very reminiscent of a Virgo's childish nature. Like children, Virgo males lack the empathy and social awareness not to make rude comments. Nor do they have the wisdom to realize that they can bring about change in people simply by using positive constructive criticism or sugar coating the truth. Often times with Virgos, you will receive an acid bath of criticism for something as simple as overcooking dinner or an untucked shirt.


This again hearkens back to Virgo's detail oriented nature. Virgos in general are very detail oriented and neat people. Nothing escapes their attention and being thick skinned they don't mind bringing it to peoples attention. This quality makes them excellent mathematicians, scientists, engineers, lawyers, etc. But it also makes them lousy at relationships, both  friendship and  love.

Which brings me to another interesting thing about Virgos, which is their shyness and timidity in sexual matters.  Not to say Virgos won't hook up or have random sex. Virgos don't really mind either although its not their preference. What they don't like is crude talk or anything out of the realm of the ordinary. They enjoy "clean" sex and prefer partners who are keep themselves up very well (completely waxed, beautiful lingerie, etc). Virgos rarely want to feel dirty during sex, so don't try to talk too "dirty" to your Virgo man. They like to think of their lovers as innocent and virginal. Although a Virgo man  loves to be on top and dominate during sex he is not always the most passionate nor experimental lover. Virgo men rarely experiment during sex and usually prefer sticking to tried and true positions.

And no sexy Brazilian
men playing
the guitar either

One of the Virgo men I dated this year was like this. When I attempted to get on top, he basically told me no, only he wanted to be on top. It sort of felt like that that movie with Penelope Cruz, "Woman on top" only  a lot less sensual and exciting, plus I didn't even get to smell spicy chili peppers ;-(. The only exception to this is the occasional Virgo with a strong Venus in something like Scorpio. Some Virgo men even develop strange kinks in regards to sex and enjoy weird sexual fantasies and play. Other blogs I have read have commented on some Virgo men being fascinated with fantasies such as scat or enema play. Of course this is a rarity for the most part, most Virgo men are quite timid and very traditional  in their sexual needs and desires.

A man I recently dated has a very strong Virgo personality. He is extremely detail oriented, neat and fastidious about his appearance. And yet despite his strong masculine personality and somewhat domineering nature when you get to know him the mask falls away and what was revealed was a somewhat shy and timid little boy. I remember one day talking dirty to him during foreplay and he actually blushed, repeatedly. This coming from a man who had been around the block more than a few times.

Needless to say this post doesn't encapsulate the better qualities of Virgos. Like many Earth signs Virgos are dependable, solid, down to earth and good people. However this sign does have its quirks and the myth of the Virgo man-child was one of the many interesting topics that I want to explore in this blog. Feel free to comment :-)

Leo Men: Rawr!

Today I will explore the concept of vanity and attention craving Leos exhibit. This exploration is based on my observations, and as I previously iterated in my last blog it is not fact, just my opinion. With that warning in mind please proceed :-)
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I usually get along well with Leos. I am aware of their egotistic natures and at times even humor them by just being quiet and listening to them drone on about themselves (in fake awe of course). In fact the way to a Leos heart is simply to listen, agree with them, praise them, don't make them look bad, and provide them with lots of hot and fast sex (and if you have a mirror on your ceiling, your Leo will love you). Although Leos have many faults, for the most part they are good people. They are extremely strong natured, hard working, generous, driven, opinionated, and extremely sociable.

A true Leo will make their opinions known to you. This sign does not attempt to be coy or modest about their views, wants and desires. And trust me this is one sign you do not want to upset or prove wrong (at least in a public setting). They have huge egos and like to be the alpha male in all situations. I used to date a Leo, who was pretty mild mannered, but one of the funniest things I remember him saying about a mutual friend of ours went along the lines of "who does this guy think he is acting like the biggest dick in the room, that's my role". Now granted my ex was joking but the point is that Leos need to be the center of attention even if they have to act like arrogant pricks in order to do so.

Leos command attention wherever they go. Case in point, President Obama, he is the ultimate Leo. Like President Obama, Leos love to be in the limelight and they always have an opinion on something (even if they're not informed enough to actually have an opinion). Many Leo men have somewhat of a demigod concept and will get very upset when people make them look bad.



I don't know how you have a
Jamaican accent, but man you
are friggin awesome my baboon friend.

 Leos love to flirt and I would consider them one of the best flirters of the Zodiac (Gemini may be better, but I will save that for another post). Also as I mentioned above, Leos are known for having huge egos. Along with huge egos Leos love the thought of conquest and easy sex. They are no stranger to hooking up and many have no problem with doing it in public ( it's a very exhibitionist sign). Since Leo's are so into attention they will often flirt and even hook up just to get the attention they crave.

Even if a Leo is in a committed relationship, they will still flirt. I'm not saying that Leos are cheaters but keep in mind that they enjoy being sociable and like the attention they receive from the opposite sex. Case in point, my experience the other day with a male Leo. So last week, I was at an awkward Jewish happy hour (AJHH). I think I spend most of my free time flitting from one to another, mainly because I am self-masochist who enjoys being around a crowd of awkward unattractive Jewish people who are drunk :-). Anyways at the AJHH I ran into a  Leo male friend of mine that I had met at a previous AJHH. I thought this guy was handsome (albeit, a little short, le sigh) and is very much my type: conservative, traditional, hardworking, stable, funny, etc. Anyways he had never made a move before on me so I assumed he wanted to keep it in the friend zone. So when he approached me I expected a quick hello and maybe a few minutes of conversation.

Instead of a quick greeting, I actually got his full attention for once and trust me when I say Leos are very affectionate people when they're interested. After greeting me hello by giving me two kisses on the cheek (granted we are both Latin, so I didn't read into this too much), he also proceeded to keep touching me when we talked (almost always a clear sign a guy is interested). He told me how great I looked, and jokingly brought up some pictures of me scantily clad from college that he had seen on FB. Needless to say by this point I was extremely confused. This guy had never shown interest in me in the past, what was going on?



Say, you wouldn't  happen
 to know when the next
awkward Jewish Happy Hour is?

  Fast forward twenty minutes later when he reveals, now openly tipsy, that he has a long distance girlfriend and prefers going to AJHHs now because there is less pressure. Huh? At this point I just became pretty disgusted and had to walk away. I could not understand why someone who had a gf (long distance or not) would go to an AJHH (which are basically meat markets of the Jewish dating scene) and openly hit on girls.

Thankfully I remembered he was a Leo and that helped me make sense of what had just  happened and not take it personally. Leos need the attention so badly from the opposite sex that they will do things like this. They don't necessarily flirt to get sex out of anyone but they will flirt to get attention from women and admiration from other men.

So Leo men, I am kind of over the desperate need for attention you crave. But when you're ready to get serious, I'll get my ceiling mirror ready :-p.

Pisces Females: Bringing on the Cray Cray

So before I begin I want to say that these are my personal opinions based on my basic study of the zodiac. I don't know everything there is to know about the subject and this blog is a way to learn more about the many signs out there. I am open to new opinions and would love to learn more. Also please do not take whatever I write here offensively, it is a mere exploration of ideas, facts, and personal experiences I have had. No description of a sign can truly encapsulate everyone within that sign. Especially since I plan on writing strictly about Sun signs, the main sign people are born under. We are influenced by many planets, and sun signs only make up a small percentage of the way someone behaves and acts. Oftentimes Sun signs can be usurped by other stronger planets asserting themselves. So if you feel these generalizations don't apply to you that is probably why.  Anyways, let me just reiterate yet again that these are just basic generalizations that I have noticed and want to explore further.

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There are a lot of signs out there that I don’t know much about. Whether it’s because they don’t really interest me at all (Libra/Sagittarius) or because the more I know about them the more inclined I am to dislike them (Gemini/Aquarius). Pisces however probably falls into somewhere in the middle. Although Pisces are Water Signs (like Cancers) I have never had a long term friendship or relationship with one.

For the most part, Pisces strikes me as a lazy and weak sign. They are the starving artist type of the Zodiac, meaning that although they can be very creative they usually don't have a lot of drive or ambition to succeed or be successful in life. My experiences with various Pisces has led me to the impression that they are unreliable, unstable and live in a dream world.

With my sun sign being in Cancer and the majority of my other planets being ruled by Capricorn, Aquarius and Leo all of these qualities are a very big turn off for me. The one and only Pisces I dated fit my stereotype of a Pisces to a tee. Even though he was in his late thirties, he could not hold down a steady job nor could he seem to figure out what he wanted to do with his life. Like Virgos, Pisces men have always struck me as being little boys who need a very strong authoritative figure in their life to take care of them. Although Pisces are usually positive and good natured they don’t expect to work hard to remedy their situations and can have a "woe is me" mentality. Meaning that Pisces often times will feel bad about themselves and can fall into deep depressions.

This was my initial perception of Pisces for a long time, but little by little I’ve realized that these qualities do not hold true for Pisces women.  Unlike their male counterparts, Pisces women are usually hard workers and very focused. To me, most Pisces males tend to be very sweet natured and open, whereas Pisces women are fake, critical, brittle, and closed. As a Cancer usually I have very good intuition into others signs and personality types but I am always surprised when a Pisces female tells me they’re a Pisces. Usually I peg them as a Gemini because of their gregarious nature and a seemingly fake quality to their personality. My initial impression of meeting a Pisces women was that although they enjoyed talking they still seemed cold and distant. I usually could not form easy or genuine friendships with them.

At a work training class the other day we did a lesson on Meyers Briggs(MBTI), which is a test used to determine different personality types. I immediately wanted to know if the MBTI personality types were relatable to Zodiac signs. My facilitator who I had pegged right off the bat as Gemini, later told me she was a Pisces. Everything about this women screamed Gemini to me. And it got me to thinking of other Pisces women I knew, who were extremely hard workers, focused, and not really open about their emotions.

Unlike a male Pisces who usually maintains a sunny and cheerful nature no matter what pressures they are under, Pisces women can come off as very cold. What surprised me the most about the Pisces females I know was the similarity they have to Cancers and Scorpios females in this regard. Like Scorpios and Cancers, Pisces females understand that their emotions make them vulnerable and they react by closing themselves off and appearing somewhat cold to outsiders. However, most Cancers and Scorpio females tend to let down their guard after you get to know them versus Pisces females who never truly seem to open up.

There is also a seemingly fake quality to many Pisces women. Like I mentioned above, I usually peg most Pisces women as Geminis because they are very sociable and love to talk but don't seem to have much substance to them. Most Pisces usually lack Gemini's charismatic nature but make up for it with their natural ability to relate to others (sometimes this can come across as very awkward). Despite the ability to empathize with others, Pisces women have always struck me as being very fake and bitchy. Another big issue that I have faced with Pisces females is that they lie a lot and hold grudges.They are easily slighted and they would rather hold a grudge then communicate with you on what happened.

Ivy Higa,"The Cray Cray"

 A Pisces female holding a grudge is very obvious to me. Already cold on the outside, she just turns off. There is no use in  speaking to her about the problem and sometimes her anger has no justification.  Another quality of Pisces women I have noticed from reading different books/blogs as well as my personal experience, is the "Cray Cray". My fellow devotees of Project Runway know all about the "Cray Cray" that's been happening this season (I will bet that Ivy Higa is a Virgo or Pisces female).

Obviously not all Pisces women are crazy but there are many who would qualify as mentally unbalanced. Case in point a very famous Pisces female I know in DC. This woman used to work at DoD under the Bush Administration in a very high up position. And she was absolutely bat shit crazy. Have you ever met someone and you could just feel the tension, craziness, and anger seeping out of their pores? Well that was this woman. I actually pegged her as a Gemini because of this. My own personal interactions with her always confused the hell out of me, since all I could think about was that someone had actually trusted her in a position of power. Anyways she basically lost it one day and apparently hit a junior level staff member and had to be escorted out kicking and screaming from the Pentagon.

Now, I don't know if all my readers are aware of how DC works. But it is a very small town with a long memory. You just can't go around hitting junior staffers and throwing a hissy fit. But to a Pisces female in an emotional state this type of thing can happen. Like I mentioned earlier, Pisces sometimes lack the control of other signs and will lash out if hurt and upset. 

So although this is an extreme example of Pisces going "cray cray", it does happen. If you look at other descriptions of Pisces women you will oftentimes find people commenting on the "Cray Cray" of this sign. Whether its a Pisces female taking revenge on an ex by burning down his house/car, lying, manipulating, using drugs, etc.

Anyways this is just an exploration into the not so positive qualities of  a Pisces female. Obviously not every Pisces female is crazy.  Many are kind hearted, generous, loveable, gentle women/men who are quite normal. This sign does have many more positive attributes which I will explore in other posts, I am  glossing over the finer qualities of this sign to talk about these negative aspects, which are rarely discussed in most forums. But I do want to learn more about Pisces females so feel free to comment :-).