Scorpio: Busting the myth of the sex fiend

One of the things that really pisses me off about modern astrology is that the negative qualities of some signs are often interpreted in positive ways. There is no better example to me then the case of Scorpio. Chances are, any magazine or book you pick up about modern astrology will describe Scorpios as being obsessed with sex.  You would think your average Scorpio spends the majority of their day alternating between prostituting themselves and being a sex fiend. However nothing could be further from the truth. I'm here to bust a very common belief, Scorpios are not sex g-ds. If anything, most Scorpios are prudish often to the point of celibacy.

First let me say this, Scorpios are extremely picky about their lovers. They have very little interest in sleeping around with multiple people and their emotions run way too deep for casual lovers. Not only are they generally not interested in casual sex but for the most part Scorpios are not particularly exciting or innovative in bed. They are rarely into experimenting and trying new positions and they are pretty conservative and bland in their sexual preferences. Sure, some Scorpios may have their kinks but for the most part this sign is much, much tamer then most people suspect.


Also on a personal note, most Scorpio men that I have met often come across as extremely effeminate and very awkward with women. They by no means have a "fatal allure" or sexual nature that most people claim is natural for Scorpio men. If anything for the most part when I meet Scorpio men I almost always peg them as a gentle Pisces or a Sag. As for Scorpio women, they give off such an intense vibe that it can be confusing to decide whether they are sexual in nature or something darker. Keep in mind that since Scorpio is a feminine sign, female Scorpios are usually much more intense then male Scorpios.

So where does all the fuss about them being obsessed with sex come from?  In my personal opinion this misconception arises out of Scorpios absolute obsession with their partners. Most Scorpios are very intense and focused people. This is great trait to have in the work world, but not such a good one for building a relationship. Once they feel they can trust you and if they fall in love with you, they will want to control you. Point blank, Scorpios want to own you, mind, body and soul. They are not content with merely dating you in a casual manner like an Air sign would. Rather Scorpios want your world to revolve around them. Scorpios are extremely loyal and expect similar loyalty from you, whether it be in a friendship or relationship. And don't even think of cheating or otherwise betraying this sign. They are completely ruthless when they feel they have been wounded or hurt. They are extremely jealous and very senesitive people. Even a  bit of light flirtation with a member of the opposite sex will upset them to the point were they feel betrayed and used.

Scorpios can be very intense and passionate in bed which is likely were the concept of them being obsessed with sex comes from. And once they feel they can trust you they will open up and be very passionate with you. They are usually generous lovers, although as I mentioned before they are not as experimental as other signs. They are not usually very selfish in bed, and once they trust you they will be very forthright about their sexual wants and desires. They will resist trying things that are outside their comfort zone or that they feel are morally wrong.

Scorpios have major issues with trust as well. They are usually pretty cold and quiet with outsiders and rarely if ever reveal their true feelings or intentions. Male Scorpios I have found are much more open and extroverted then their female counterparts. But for the most part Scorpio rarely opens up to outsiders or strangers (more on female Scorpios and trust in another post).

Another common misconception about Scorpios is that in bed they can be very dark. Meaning turned on by fetishes, bondage, BSDM, etc. Again this is definitely not the case. For Scorpios that do enjoy darker or more rougher sex (a rarity) their desires lie in mind control over anything tangible or visually stimulating (chains, whips, latex, etc).  For the most part this sign has major trust issues so its very rare to find a Scorpio that would enjoy being tied up, confined or humiliated in any way. This sign has a lot of pride and there is nothing more humiliating to them then losing control in the bedroom. Not to say they don't enjoy mastering others in the bedroom, but like I mentioned earlier, often a Scorpio's ethical  and controlled nature will not allow them to hurt others, especially those they truly love.

Against common belief, Scorpios have a definite sense of right and wrong and are often ruled by their morality.  Now mind you, a Scorpios morality is not neccesarily guided by society's mores and dictates but rather whatever they personally feel is right or wrong. This means that although a Scorpio may have respect for government and its processes but they have no qualms about breaking or bending laws/rules they don't believe in.

So hopefully this shed some light on a common misconception. Scorpios, feel free to comment and prove me wrong :-). I'm still looking for my tall, dark and handsome Scorpio man ....lol.